HOW TO DEAL WITH GRIEF IN A POSITIVE WAY

Death, divorce, bankruptcy, or profound disappointment among other forms of loss creates a sudden crash of grief and hope that you try to hold onto. It's natural to go through a grieving process, and it's best to look for a way to make it past the adversity of it all in an effective manner filled with goodness, honesty, and faith.

Allow emotions of grief with loss

Grief sets off deep emotions - sadness, shock, numbness, despair fear, anger, regret, and loneliness - that people consider negative. The truth is they view it like that because they make us uncomfortable, even though emotions are a natural part of life. God created us with emotion inside, and we should be allowed to express them, without promises or judgment.

The responses to grief normally fall under a deep sadness as part of our reaction to loss, but it's not the only one that you feel at the time. You should also allow the many emotions, both good and bad, that come with it:

• It's okay to feel happiness and joy at times, which allows for grieving with hope.
• It's okay to feel disappointment or angry, even if you still have compassion about that loss.
• I's okay to feel afraid or anxious about how your loss might affect your future.

Many people who transition very well through grief is that they've been open about accepting God in their emotions during grief. Inshort, it's okay to feel anything when you're grieving. And while many of the emotions we feel are difficult or even painful, it's important to acknowledge and validate all of them as legitimate and natural.

Acknowledge the extent of loss of hope and grief

When there is an intense loss of hope that comes from the grief, you need to start an “inventory” of the way it is affecting your life. You process the full weight of grief as you deal with the size of loss. There are signs of how it affects you mentally, physically, and spiritually:

• Worrying is common during grief, as you find yourself concerned about life after the loss of a person or thing
• You fantasize about how your life would be life if you still hadn't experienced the loss
• Tiredness and fatigue are a very common effect of grief, as are weight gain/loss and changes to appetite.
• Aches and pain may come from time to time, and you might not be able to tell it apart from anormal pain.
• Restless sleep and insomnia takes its toll on us

Isolation can come in many forms - losing friendships, routines roles, your identity, etc. You avoid normal activities and people during grief, and hope that you are strong enough to deal with the pain on our own. Processing the weight and importance of hope and loss

Sometimes you step away from our spiritual community, or even distance ourselves for God. But you must understand that testing those beliefs is a powerful way to reconnect, or rebuild a faith in God after the challenge made by grief.

Accept the loss of hope, and grief’s effect on the now

You live in a world filled with doubt and it affects the way with how you approach life, and grief and hope are no different. You must accept our kind of grief as valid, and that the importance of hope means in the present. You have to ask: after the loss has happened, what matters to you in life right now?

What this means is that you have to step away from your persistent thoughts towards loss and the past and welcome the now. You expect and accept the changes in life that will reduce energy and stability. It's normal to feel lonely, but you should not allow ourselves to fall into isolation. Accept help and support when offered, whether through others or God.

Think of it of what a spark of hope can mean when God allows your heart and mind to understand and move through constant loss.

Adjust to the grief and hope for a better process

You're always told, like everyone else, that it's time to adjust to the “new normal.” but it’s more than that with grief and hope. There are many options to getting through with deep loss which might go out of your comfort zone, but still provide peace.

Take your time and be gentle instead of setting a deadline or trying to keep it together - it's better to take to your time so that you feel better. Stay active, keep alist of daily activities and set goals but do not overdo it and take on too many, especially major decisions. Talk to someone, cither through friends or professional help, so that you don't feel alone but won't overwhelm your grief.

Trust God's connection to your grief and hope

You can also talk to God about our grief and hope, and although you might not get the answers immediately, eventually there's an understanding between the two over why there's pain and how to embrace it. Many have found that confirming your trust in God can be a part of balancing healthy grieving, adjusting daily life with faith. As you give the life you had before the loss to God, we trust God give us something new.

The healthy process of grief comes with a promise of eternity, where you will be free of pain.

Holidays and anniversaries are perfect days to connect your lost loved ones with God.

Although things may difficult now, God will find a way to work goodness into your heart and in the world around you.

Don't be afraid to appreciate where you are right now, and what you can do to honor your loss. The right decisions can bring you back toaplace where you can welcome life and God, however it may be offered to you.